Tuesday, July 17, 2012
Jealousy, Jealous people, People looking to use you
I was taught when I was growing up to say what you mean, and mean what you say. Also to tell the truth. When I grew up I realized this is not how the world works. We grow up being influenced by people around us who care and generally want us to succeed. They are our family members, close family friends, and close friends we make at a young age. This group of people show their happiness when we succeed. They congratulate us, they cheer us on. They support us, help us, and pick us up when we falter. As we grow up we start meeting more people. Unfortunately because we are taught at a young age by people around us who care, when someone cheers, or congratulates us, and so forth, we also believe the new people in our lives feel the same way, as if they cared about us. Hate to tell you the truth, many don't care what so ever. They are being "polite" or "nice". I categorize people in the following way; The real applause from people close to you who do care. The real applause from people who generally care. The fake applause from people who could care less. The fake applase from people looking to use you, or put you down. Lets start with "The real applause from people close to you who do care" Again these are the people who are close to you that I listed above. They want you to succeed. Ok, sometimes they go overboard, especially parents. They just want to see you succeed. You might be embarrassed at your young age. But when you grow up you'll learn how lucky you were to have your own cheering crowd. The real applause from people who generally care. These people even if they are not close to you, are caring people. They are happy to see anyone who succeeds. They themselves look forward to succeed. They are willing to help, just to be helpful, expecting nothing in return. They help others, as they have received help, or hope maybe one day when they need help, someone will be there to help them. They ask you questions how you succeeded so they can learn from you. The fake applause from people who could care less. These people are generally people who don't know you well, or don't care about you. They applaud to be polite, or nice, not to be seen as the bad person. Those in the office who cheer you on, when the whole office is basically told to cheer you on. The fake applase from people looking to use you, or put you down. These types are all around us. They are hard to see through. They act if they care, while waiting to back stab you at any moment. To your face they act is if they care. They will say anything and do anything to gain your trust. They will impersonate as if they are a person who does care, while only looking for the opportunity, to squash you to advance their own goal, or use to you advance their goal. Many times once you spot this type of person, just cut ties with them, and let everyone know. Reason to let everyone know, is by the time you realize the type of person this person is, they seem to others as a close friend of yours. That person will continue to try to use your other friends, their loyalty, because they still think you are friends/close with that person. No matter how bad you think it is to tell others you found out this person is bad. Its worse not to, in the end, it will be found out how this person is bad, and others will be mad/upset you did not tell them. Some of them are just jealous, and look to get close to you just to destroy you easily. Beware these people, and they imitate those who do care for you.
Posted by blogger at 3:57 PM